Because Confidence Matters

Your sense of self is an important aspect of your being. How do YOU define who you are? How do you think about your identity, your strengths, your liabilities, your capabilities? We know women have a tendency to minimize their strengths and often lack the confidence of their male counterparts. This translates into women underestimating their abilities and being doubtful of what they can achieve, whether that’s going for a big promotion at work or losing 20lb. If we don’t believe we can do it, we won’t do it.

How can we shift this and embrace our fully capable and amazing selves? You might be surprised to know there are a few simple tips you can follow in order to build confidence, improve your sense of self, and appear powerful to others. There is a lot of research on this, and you can find some great links to the science of it all below. The best thing is, once you appear powerful and confident, you’ll start to be powerful and confident. Here’s how:

Own your strengths– don’t be afraid to claim your skill set and acknowledge what you are good at. This doesn’t have to be fancy skills, either. You can be good at connecting with others, working efficiently, or remembering people’s names. When you’re good, you’re good. Own it.

Strike the power pose– stand tall and stand strong. This actually changes your hormones and your body chemistry making you feel more powerful and have a greater tolerance for risk. Plant your feet firmly on the floor. Stand upright with your shoulders back. Essentially, make yourself big. Harvard researcher Amy Cuddy has spent her career showing how our body language shapes who we are. She has a TED talk you need to watch.

Fake it ‘til you become it– practice becoming who you want to be. You might feel like an imposter, but that’s probably not the case. That’s your fear and self-doubt talking. So fake it. Act as if you are the woman you want to be, and guess what? You’ll become her in no time. (The secret is that you always were her, you just needed to believe it).

So start your day with the challenge to stand strong and tell yourself three things that make you great. And hey, if you’re feeling up to it, post it below. We’d love to read a list of the great things about our amazing Team Better community.

lorri sulpizio

About lorri sulpizio

Lorri is a former college-basketball coach and personal trainer, turned leadership professional. She is Director of the Leadership Institute at the University of San Diego and principal consultant at Lotus Leadership Institute. She loves anything fitness, reading and spending time with her kids and family.