You cannot serve from an empty vessel.
You cannot care for others unless you first take care of yourself.
Taking good care of you means the people in your life will receive the best of you, rather than what’s left of you.
The idea of self-care is everywhere. One doesn’t have to look to far to find tips, tools, and strategies for how to tend to and care for oneself. Self-care, by definition, refers to deliberate actions that we do individually in order to maintain and preserve the self. On one hand, we have professional care from the medical community and other health-care providers, and at the other end of the spectrum is our own proactive ownership of our health and wellness. But the reality is, these two don’t work in isolation. Our self-care aligns with preventative medicine, and hopefully keeps us healthy and minimizes our tendency to get sick, feel down and depressed, and need constant medical interventions.
The problem is that so many of us have a hard time tending to our bodies and spirits. It’s not for a lack of wanting. The typical excuse is a lack of time, money, and energy. But here’s the thing: if you value something, you will give it your time, your energy, and your money. At the core of our struggle to commit to self-care is our propensity to value others over ourselves.
Team Better believes this needs to change. We believe you must cultivate your spirit in order to live your best life and prevent illness, disease, and dysfunction. We have to start valuing ourselves so that we give ourselves permission to take care of ourselves. In doing that, we will better equip ourselves to take care of others in our lives. And let’s face it, we, women, take care of a lot of people and a lot of things.
Think about how good you feel when you’ve given yourself some “me time,” and how empty you feel when you recognize that your self (body, mind, and spirit) has not received any care or attention.
I know for me, I am much more loving, efficient, productive, and happy when I’ve exercised. I eat better, I sleep better, I’m a better mom, and really, a better me. And I have a few things on my self-care list that I know brings me closer to my best self. Reading, journaling or writing, and a massage doesn’t hurt either.
We hope that you begin to cultivate your own self-care rituals, and do so consistently and unapologetically. Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive. It is simply something you do that is dedicated and devoted to your own self.
Your body, mind, and spirit craves it. And you deserve it.
Here are some examples of simple self-care actions:
- Take a longer shower or bath, and use a salt scrub on your body
- Do your favorite exercise class (yoga, Pilates, boot-camp, spin)
- Stretch to 10-15 minutes while listening to some relaxing music
- Wash your face every night and use a moisturizer
- Make a cup of tea and read a magazine
- Go out to lunch with your girlfriends
- Write in your journal
- Do something you’ve been wanting to do (visit a museum, rock climb, go see a movie)
- Take a nap
- Get a babysitter and go on a date with your spouse
- Relax in the sun
- Read a book
- Turn off your cell phone and spend unplugged time with your family
- Mediate or pray
- Watch a funny movie
We’d love to hear from you? What are some of the things you do to take care of yourself?
Self-care is not about self-indulgence. It’s about self-preservation.